Dear Earthlings (and disguised Spacelings),
Do you ever aware the very reason that causes outsiders to talk behind your back is because the unofficial conveyer is mostly somebody from your circle itself? We tend to blame other people when they backbite us but has it ever occur to us that people might get the hot stuff from somebody who knows the thing first-hand?
Sadly but how it is so true. Sometimes we human forget the boundaries on who should we tell something and who shouldn’t. When I was a teenage girl, I always had the tendencies to tell my secrets to somebody I regard as my best friend; simply because I thought a best friend is someone I could put my whole trust. So from little to huge dirty secrets were considered fine to be shared with; even some family’s coverts.
But then I forgot those people were also outsiders. An outsider will still be an outsider, regardless how close we are. There is no definite assurance that we will never pick some fights over something or a pledge that our best friends will somehow take our secrets to their graves without telling a word about it to the others. A human is merely a human. Like us, they can always make a mistake.
Growing up, I learned that anything happens in the house should stays in the house. Nothing is going out; not even to the closest relative’s place or the house of my in-laws. I always believe that a house’s internal issue should never get outside unless to immediate family members. If you should ever need to trust somebody other than your spouses, it should be your next of kin. Not an aunt or your closest cousin.
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And being a wife or a mother, keeping the secrets of the husband and kids is always a must. Never bring out any internal issue to anyone just to share out the burdens. To let out the hard feeling might be relieving at first but do we realize the later consequences involved? People will circulate the issue among themselves but the issue will never get settled. The worst part is the issue will be spoken for generations.
A marital privacy should be between the spouses themselves. If your marriage is in trouble, please discuss it within the house only. Do avoid any third party involvement at all costs for most of them will only bring negative vibe than positive one. And stop the habit of seeking the help of traditional practitioner or so-called conventional psychics (well you know what I mean here, Malaysians).
Going to this kind of people won't solve our problems. Not only we reveal secrets that should be private to a definite stranger, we actually expose things that might downgrade our spouse and kids’ good names. If we don't wish the others to backbite us and our family, then never give them the very things they want. That's what I always remind myself until today. And dear, seek the help you need from The Almighty.
Safeguard someone's secret and your secret shall be safeguarded too, people!
