Dear Earthlings (and disguised Spacelings),
Often that I feel like yawning with boredom when somebody said he/she was not interfering in other people's conflict but merely taking concerns about it. How irony, when all I could see was he/she was more in meddling someone's else business with a bonus act of backbiting rather than what he/she has claimed at early point. What an art of camouflage, huh!
Well dear peeps, there's a fine line between peacemaking and meddling. As a human being, we walk the most delicate line of boundaries that define one's own business and whatnot. A silent resentment or maybe a smoldering conflict that lead to arguments can happen to any society's members, but it doesn't mean we can be the unofficial mediator between those two. Or worse; a judge.
Sometimes there are things that are just not for us to speak of. It might lead to a worse scenario if we butt in and take sides. Always remember that Allah SWT forbids us to spread scandal among the others of which could be a damaging tool to persons involved. We shall all learn to assume good of one another upon hearing something we are unsure of.
Well dear peeps, there's a fine line between peacemaking and meddling. As a human being, we walk the most delicate line of boundaries that define one's own business and whatnot. A silent resentment or maybe a smoldering conflict that lead to arguments can happen to any society's members, but it doesn't mean we can be the unofficial mediator between those two. Or worse; a judge.
It should be taken seriously that interfering with other people's affair is quite a dangerous act. Unless both crisis parties themselves want to work it out and we are somehow needed for the third opinion, it is smarter (and also safer) not to intervene or give unnecessary judging. They can find a way themselves and make up in due course, but later they will turn on us for taking sides. That's when the real problem occurs.
Truth to be told, I have always seen these kind of people ever since my childhood time. Boy, I am sure I will keep seeing them until I get old. It might be wise to say that we people just hate to be locked in conflict with others but these people just don't feel right if they are not meddling in someone's else affair. Be it a house or marriage issue; those issues are supposedly to be private and not to be intervened with.
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| 'Yours Truly at one of the art times' |
I admit that I used to be one of that people. When somebody came to me and poured everything off his/her chest about some personal issues involving the other one, I would then act like a consultant with words that I should had realized could cause the issue to stir up. I think most of us couldn't help but tend to provide unnecessary opinion to the warring parties or start taking sides at such event. No?
How I regret a lot for that silly act of mine if only I knew that karma is a b. Well what goes around comes around. Now I have learned to know when I am contributing to the outright conflict of somebody's. Remember for we don't have to put out a fire that we did not
start or resolve a
conflict that did not concern us at all.
So every time we hear those hot, circulated stuffs coming out of thin air, do ask ourselves whether the issue is ours or somebody's else. Unless the conflict involves us in any significant way, we are better off not trying to intervene in what isn't our business. Listening is good to go, but never impose one's own ideas or turn to be a self-appointed rescuer. We might ignite the spark that's already there.
Sometimes there are things that are just not for us to speak of. It might lead to a worse scenario if we butt in and take sides. Always remember that Allah SWT forbids us to spread scandal among the others of which could be a damaging tool to persons involved. We shall all learn to assume good of one another upon hearing something we are unsure of.
Let's stop backbiting each other, people!
